If I know you, Dear Reader, I know you are planning an elegant holiday soirée. Like me, you will plan it to perfection and create the most magnificently memorable event. From invitations to thank you notes, everything will be perfect.

How do I know this? I know this because you will follow my tips on how be the most sophisticated hostess you can be this holiday season.

Lucinda’s List: How to be the Most Elegant Hostess

1. Invitation Affectation – Exquisite invitations are imperative for a formal fest. If you missed the mailing deadline, they must be hand-delivered by your assistant. If your assistant is too busy planning the party, you could use a local boutique courier service.
2. Valet Display – Your guests should never be pestered with parking perils. Plan a valet service. To show how thoughtful you really are, you could lend your driver to guests for the evening, but ensure a snappy schedule.
3. Entry Gentry – Ensure your concierge is well-groomed and well-versed with the society pages. Provide him with photos and names of your guests so they feel immediately welcome.
4. Non-Nervous Room Service – Three employees should be situated in your entrance: doorman to handle coats, food server to offer hors d’oeuvres, and drink server with a variety of beverages. Your guests should never have to hunt for refreshment.
5. Meet and Greet – Greet guests with open arms and air kisses. If you know the guest particularly well, you are permitted a greeting kiss on the cheek. For certain dear friends, you can indeed offer a kiss on the lips.
6. Production of Introduction – Encourage socializing at your event by introducing guests to one another with interesting anecdotes. Make sure not to reveal anything personal, though. These days you do not know exactly what one wishes to reveal.
7. Manage Advantage – As the hostess, you will be required for sparkling conversation; you will not have time to manage your servants. This is what a mother is for.
8. Ambiance Ambulance – A successful holiday party contains equal amounts refreshment, conversation, networking, music, and good cheer. It is your responsibility to ensure this all occurs, so you should employ an event planner for your fête to make sure it happens.
9. Gift Lift – As guests depart, they should receive a heartfelt gift from you to remind them of the lovely time they spent at your holiday party. I recommend hand-made scented candles.
10. Thank You Adieu – You thanked guests for attending while saying your festive farewells, but they must receive a follow-up thank-you card in the mail. An electronic greeting will not do.